They do not need to be your friend or associate. If you don’t have a Spiritual Leader that is called by God you need to get one quickly.
Read: Hebrews 13:17
17 Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit.